Episodes

April 9, 2026

Dad Talk: Chris from AutismDad_Memes, Autism Isn’t Always What You Think

Hey, What’s Up! It’s Tommy. Man, this episode hit deep. I sat down with my good friend Chris from AutismDad_Memes, and we got real about what’s actually going on with our kids, what we’ve gotten wrong, and what we’re learning along the way. There’s a lot of stuff out there that people just label as autism. But the truth is, not everything we’re seeing is autism itself. There can be underlying issues like gut health, inflammation, neurological challenges, or even misdiagnosed conditions that ar...
April 2, 2026

Autism Awareness Month, Growing Old Together, You're not Alone

Hey, What’s Up! It’s Tommy. This episode hit deep. Kailee and I sat down and just talked, no script, no plan, just real life. And what came out was one of those conversations that reminds you what this journey is really about. We talked about Autism Awareness Month, but more than that, we talked about love, fear, the future, and what it means to truly care for your child, no matter what life looks like. Kailee shared a moment from a podcast she listened to that completely stopped her in her t...
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March 26, 2026

Thy Will Be Done

Hey, What’s Up! It’s Tommy. This episode is real. It’s raw. It’s one of those moments where I’m just working through what’s been sitting heavy on my heart. Lately, I’ve been feeling the weight of it all. The ups and downs with Wyatt, the stress of work, the pressure of trying to be everything for both of my kids. There are moments when I just want to hear my son say, “I love you,” or ask me how my day was. And when that doesn’t happen, it can hit hard. I found myself slipping into that place ...
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March 19, 2026

Why Simple Family Moments Matter More Than Ever in Autism Parenting

Hey, What's Up! It's Tommy. This week, my wife and I had a real conversation about slowing down, staying present, and not missing the good things right in front of us. We talked about how easy it is to get overwhelmed by social media, news, comparison, parenting pressure, and just the nonstop pace of life. When you are raising kids, especially in a home impacted by profound autism, it can feel like the world is always pulling at your attention. We shared how going back to simple things has hel...
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March 12, 2026

With Kailee: Autism Parenting Burnout - How We Stay Calm on the Hard Days

Hey, What's Up! It's Tommy. In this episode, Kailee and I have a real, honest conversation about what life looks like when parenting feels heavy. We talk about the hard days with our son Wyatt, who is almost 11, nonspeaking, and living with profound autism. Some days feel calm and steady. Other days can turn fast, especially when sleep is off, routines get disrupted, or he is clearly dysregulated and cannot tell us what hurts, what he needs, or what is going on inside. We open up about how muc...
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March 5, 2026

What We Focus On Grows: A Mental Health Lesson for Autism Parents

Hey, What's Up! It's Tommy. Today I’m sharing a very personal update after one of the most intense weeks I’ve had in a long time. Between the loss of our fire chief, travel to a national convention, and presenting a seminar on mental health in business, life threw a lot at me all at once. A year ago, situations like this would have sent my anxiety through the roof. Even six months ago, I probably would have canceled something important because I couldn’t handle the pressure. But this time was ...
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Feb. 26, 2026

Is It a Pivot or Is It a Change of Plans? A Better Way to Handle Parenting Stress

Hey, What’s Up! It’s Tommy. We are wrapping up February, which feels crazy to even say. Winter always feels endless after Christmas, but here we are, staring down spring. And I want to talk about two things today that have been heavy on my heart. First, what we can start preparing for as spring comes. Second, the difference between a full change of plans and simply making a pivot. If you’re new here, welcome. I’m a dad to an almost 11-year-old non-speaking autistic son. We are not trying to “...
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Feb. 19, 2026

Dr. Matt Hamilton: Chiropractic and Immune Health

Hey, What's Up! It's Tommy. Happy Friday, and welcome back to Spectrum in Camouflage. Today I’m joined again by Dr. Matt Hamilton from Maximum Potential, and we’re keeping this one practical and real. We’ve talked before about deeper neurology and chiropractic care, especially with sensory challenges, autism, and complex cases. This time we zoom out and talk about what “healthy living” actually looks like for busy families, especially during winter in Ohio when everyone feels trapped inside and...
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Feb. 12, 2026

Dad Talk: Staying in the Fight with Zack Ponder from the UnSpecial Podcast

Hey, What's Up! It's Tommy. In this episode, I’m sitting down with my new close friend, Zack Ponder from The UnSpecial Podcast. Zack is one of those guys you meet online and instantly think, man, I get him. He has a heart for profoundly affected families, even though he did not come into this space as a special needs parent. He came into it through calling, compassion, and a real desire to make sure families feel seen and supported. We get real fast. We talk about faith, contentment in hardshi...
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Feb. 5, 2026

The Autism Community Is Hurting: Why We Have to Talk About Family Mental Health

Hey, What's Up! It's Tommy. On today’s episode of Spectrum in Camouflage, my wife Kaylee joins me and we talk about two sides of this life at the same time. The wins that are giving us real hope right now, and the heavy current events that have shaken the autism community. We start with what’s been going well. Wyatt has been more regulated lately, we’ve seen encouraging “soft signs” of progress, and our home has felt calmer. We also talk about what’s helped, including chiropractic-based nervou...
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Jan. 29, 2026

Chris from AutismDad_Memes, They’re Listening, Apraxia and Spelling to Communicate

Hey, What's Up! It's Tommy. Today I’m hanging out with Chris, aka AutismDad_Memes, and this episode is one of those real-deal dad conversations that hits you in the chest a few times. Chris and I are both construction guys, both raising one neurotypical kid and one autistic kid, and we talk about what it’s like trying to hold it together, show up for our families, and still find ways to help other parents who are barely hanging on. Chris shares why he started using social media in the first pla...
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Jan. 22, 2026

Tommy and Kailee Get Real: Speaking in Puerto Rico, 40 Days Without Alcohol, A Mom’s Honest Reset

Hey, What's Up! It's Tommy. In this episode of Spectrum in Camouflage, my wife Kailee and I sit down for a real, late-night conversation about a recent trip I took to Puerto Rico to speak at an event. We talk about what it was like to travel alone, speak in front of a big crowd, and stay sober through an environment where drinking is usually the normal thing. We also get honest about what was happening back home while I was gone. Kailee shares how she was feeling, what was weighing on her emot...
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Jan. 15, 2026

With Kailee: Real Life Pressure, and Small Wins Matter

Hey, What’s Up! It’s Tommy. Kailee and I are sitting down to recap the holidays and talk through what really happened behind the scenes, Christmas, New Year’s, family visits, routines getting shaken up, and the emotional weight that can come with all of it when you’re parenting a child with profound autism. This year was a big one for us. We did something we haven’t done in a long time, we hit multiple family stops in one day. That might sound normal to some people, but for us, it’s a whole dif...
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Jan. 8, 2026

With Dr. Matt Hamilton: Perfect Storm Part 2, How the Nervous System Rebuilds After Regression

Hey, What's Up! It’s Tommy. Welcome back to Part 2 of my conversation with Dr. Matt Hamilton from Maximum Potential Chiropractic. If Part 1 opened the door to the idea of the “Perfect Storm,” this episode walks you deeper into how the nervous system actually develops, how regression can happen, and why healing often looks messy before it looks miraculous. We talked about real kids, real families, and real progress. Things like a child making eye contact and saying “I love you” for the first time...
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Jan. 1, 2026

With Dr. Matt Hamilton: The Perfect Storm Behind Autism, What Many Parents Miss Until It’s Too Late

Hey, What's Up! It's Tommy. I’m super stoked because I sat down with Dr. Matt Hamilton from Maximum Potential Chiropractic, and we kicked off a longer, science-heavy conversation about neurologically focused chiropractic care and something they call “The Perfect Storm.” This episode is Part 1, and I’m splitting it up so the ending is going to feel like a hard stop. That’s on purpose, because I want you to be able to actually absorb this stuff without your brain melting. We started by talking ab...
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Dec. 25, 2025

Post-Christmas Encouragement and A Reminder of What's Important

Hey, What’s Up! It’s Tommy. This is a short, post-Christmas encouragement for every parent who feels tired, stretched thin, or quietly overwhelmed after the holidays. Christmas can bring joy, but it can also bring stress, comparison, and emotional whiplash, especially for families raising autistic children or navigating special needs. In this episode, I want to remind you of something simple but powerful. As long as your kids have you, they have everything they need. And as long as you have you...
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Dec. 18, 2025

With Kailee: Christmas With an Autistic Child, Lower the Pressure, Keep the Meaning

Hey, What's Up! It's Tommy. It’s the Friday before Christmas, and Kailee and I wanted to talk honestly about what the holidays can feel like in a home like ours, the good moments, the hard moments, and everything in between. We share how Wyatt has had some high-stimulation days lately, how a good chiropractic appointment and a calm day can feel like a huge win, and how we’ve learned to stop forcing “normal” holiday expectations. We talk about getting our Christmas tree as a family, keeping thin...
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Dec. 11, 2025

Sitting Beside the Struggle: Autism, Hep B Vaccines, and Mental Strength for Parents

Hey, What's Up! It's Tommy. In this episode of Spectrum in Camouflage, I talk about some huge changes coming out of the CDC around the hepatitis B vaccine for newborns, what that means to us as autism and special needs families, and how I am learning to sit beside grief instead of living inside it. I share my own struggle with survivor’s guilt after losing a firefighter brother in our town, the weight of looking back at early vaccine decisions for Wyatt, and how all of this ties into mental stre...
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Dec. 4, 2025

With Kailee: Mickey Mouse Clubhouse, Dysregulation, and The Power of Small Risks at Home

Hey, What's Up! It's Tommy. In this episode of Spectrum in Camouflage, I sit down with my wife, Kailee, to talk about my recent Kentucky hunting trip, how it tested our anxiety after a tough year, and what it showed us about where Wyatt is right now as a non-speaking autistic child. We walk through what it felt like for me to leave, how Kailee held things down at home, how our two Great Pyrenees puppies pushed our whole family to spend more time outside, and what happened when we finally turned ...
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Nov. 27, 2025

CDC Autism Shock: Reaction and Honest Questions

Hey, What's Up! It’s Tommy. In this episode of Spectrum in Camouflage, I talk through the recent CDC autism-page update and how it hit me as a dad walking through autism every day. I unpack why this news stirred up so much emotion for me, how it connects to my son’s regression, and why I believe parents have to do their own research instead of handing all of their trust to big systems. I share my heart for both of my kids, the huge gap between “high functioning” and “profoundly affected” on the...
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Nov. 20, 2025

Preparing for the Holidays with Kailee, Calm Routines for Our Autistic Family | E66

Hey, What's Up! It's Tommy. The holidays are coming, and I am here with my wife, Kailee, to talk about how we prepare our family for this season. We share what is working for Wyatt after a tough stretch post-anesthesia, how we lower stress with simple traditions, and how we protect sibling connection for Jesse. We talk about gluten-free and dairy-free swaps, magnesium and other calming tools, the power of small moments like Christmas lights and movie nights, and why flexible plans can turn a ha...
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Nov. 13, 2025

Navigating Autism with Kailee: Advocating Without Apology and Our Family’s Dental Visit Story | E65

Hey, What’s Up! It’s Tommy. Today I brought my favorite co-host back on the mic, my wife Kailee. We talk about the real stuff, like why our non-speaking autistic son, Wyatt, needs anesthesia for dental work, what recovery looks like at home, and how we advocate for simple accommodations that make tough days doable. We share waiting room wins, a funny fudgesicle start, the time-change chaos, and what helped when Wyatt hit a rough patch afterward. We also cover our current support stack, like Camu...
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Nov. 6, 2025

Early Holiday Prep For Autism Families: Safety, Food, and Peace | E64

Hey, What’s Up! It’s Tommy. Holidays can feel heavy for families like ours. In this early holiday prep episode, I open up about why November speeds by, how food and sensory triggers shape our plans, and what it looks like to protect our kids while still building joy. I share practical ideas for autism-friendly gatherings, from gluten-free swaps to simple safety tools, and I talk about community, encouragement, and choosing traditions that fit your family. If this season feels loud, fast, or lone...
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Oct. 30, 2025

Post-Anesthesia Regression in Autistic Kids, What Parents Should Expect | E63

Hey, What’s Up! It’s Tommy. Today I open up about a recent experience with my son, Wyatt, and what happened after his dental procedure that required anesthesia. I share how we saw short-term regression, what that looked like in real life, and the practical steps we’re using to help him feel better. If you’re a parent or caregiver walking a similar path, I hope this gives you clarity, comfort, and a few simple ideas you can try right away. Key Takeaways Anesthesia can trigger short-term regress...